ZAHRA EL BAYDA 2 EPISODE 60
The elder children can generally be given more freedom. Now that my parents are no more, my sister is very kind with me. They keep causing hurt to others with their irresponsible talk. Foul mouthed persons are generally inferior and petty minded. He sometimes causes damage to the properties of the other person. They try to keep away from them and avoid their company. The child by nature is not capable of bad mouthing. The parents, with discreet handling of the situation, can make the child accept the other brothers and sisters and thus prevent him from continuing with his feeling of envy.
The parents must strictly avoid comparing children. Usul al-Kafi, v 2, p. He may learn this from his parents, brothers, sisters and friends at school or play. The elder ones will get more pocket money. How obedient he is and also he helps his mother with her work. There can always be the risk of his taking out spleen on his own siblings. But the maximum effect will be of the attitude of the parents.
Foul mouthed persons are generally inferior and petty minded. The persons who do tongue lashing at whatever passes their mind, seldom stick to their word. View this page in our App.
He will be burning in the flames of jealousy day and night. The parents should keep their eyes and ears open to such behavior in their children and nip the defect in the bud. The Prophet of Islam says: The Prophet of Islam has said: When he notices the parents expressing affection to the other siblings, he will feel momentary pang of jealousy.
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Generally such a jealous person is neither capable of snatching away the good thing from the other person nor harm zahrq in any way. There is also curse on zaahra who abuse, are shameless and impertinent and they will all be denied entry to Paradise. This way they inadvertently give a wrong training to the children.
When he finds something good and attractive with others, he wishes that they lost the thing. The others too have a right over the parents. He may learn this from his parents, brothers, sisters and friends at school or play. The child will slowly understand that he has to share the affection of the parents with the other brothers and sisters. Using bad words epiisode talking impertinently is a very bad habit.
The parents not only are responsible for their own behavior but have the very important responsibility of training their zwhra properly. Whatever I desired for, they used to give me. Whenever she had a chance, she would beat and pinch me, call me names and break my favorite toys.
There is no harm in this attitude. But if the parents properly explain to them that they have the same affection for all the children, but the norms of behavior for people differ according to the gender and age.
With shouting and threats too such situations cannot be handled. Tongue Lashing and Impertinence. My zaahra always used to nag me. It should not be allowed to flourish and grow. In conclusion it is necessary to mention that maintaining totally equitable treatment to all the children might be Utopian. Some children are always more proficient, better looking or smarter than others.
The best way to correct the child is to talk softly with the child and explain to him about the ill effects of using bad words. She feels very much if I have the slightest discomfort” 1.
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The difference between envy and rivalry is that a person becomes a rival of another person to match his sahra and to go ahead of him; but an envious person bayva feels jealous and is unable to compete and come forward. They try to keep away from them and avoid their company. Now that my parents are no more, my sister is very kind with me. You should not close your baydq to these activities of the child.
Usul al-Kafi, v 72, p. They should remember that sooner or later they will find the child trading the same idiom that he has been hearing again and again from his parents. Lots of murders, fights and other crimes are the result of envy and jealousy.
The younger ones require more protection.
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The child by nature is not capable of bad mouthing. Then any amount of sermonizing and beatings cannot reform the child. Such attitude can curb whatever degree of capability the weaker child has and might render him totally incompetent These well-meaning but ignorant parents think that they are training the child.
This is a normal human instinct. Instead of trying to mend his ways strictly, impress on him that the little children are his own brothers and sisters.
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They should not overtly compare the capabilities of the children in their presence, and even with others, if there is likelihood of the children learning about the comparison being made. The best remedy is that the parents reform themselves in good time before it gets too late. This treatment might ek to the children some hard feelings. Jealousy or envy is a negative trait in human beings.
The parents, whose duty it is to prevent the foibles of their children, themselves are perpetrating such wrong acts and encouraging the children to follow zshra example. I used to think why my sister is troubling me so much? His parents are really lucky to have a son like him. Jealousy has deleterious effects on the nerves and heart of a person and makes him sick and weak.
They should never praise other children very much particularly in comparison with their own.